Dasha is 15 years old, student in the 9th grade. Since her early childhood she was raised only by her grandmother, given the fact that her mother left her when she was one year old and went to Turkey. In all these 15 years she visited Dasha only few times, to less to build any mother-daughter relations. She also has no father, given the fact that her mother run away from him when she got pregnant because he was treating her very violently.
Coming to Urban Center Comrat was not an easy choice for her, fact which we understood from our first meetings. In the beginning she told us that in her class she feels rejected and unwanted. Because of this she start skipping school or coming late to classes, not wishing to meet her colleagues and hear their bad words. She also told me that she feels very lonely and bored at home because she has no hobby or things to do. Besides school she also has a bad relationship with her grandmother and uncle. Dasha said that her grandmother does not love her, makes her work after school when she needs to do homework and is constantly yelling at her. Her uncle excessively controls her and he even attended some girls meetings to see what she is doing.
Her situation was not strange for us, but in the same time complicated and in great need for help. We start praying for Dasha and discussing about the ways she can improve her way of life. We advised Dasha that she will give more time for school and home works and that she will give her best to study well. Regarding her relatives, we helped her understand that she needs to be thankful for them given the fact that they are the only ones who are close and take care of her. To our surprise Dasha didn't show resistance, but on the contrary was very open during all our discussions showing desire for change. After a certain period of time we start noticing all these positive changes in Dasha's life. She became a better student in school. She start attending different school events, which was proving that school became her interest. She also was giving more respect to her relatives, giving her best to listen to her grandmother and uncle, even if sometimes they were rough on her. Step by step God was changing her life, becoming a better person and a great example for other girls from the center.
For us Dasha became a very special girl, very cheerful, sociable and in many ways ready to give us a helping hand within the center. Looking back, when she first came to our girls meetings, she was very closed, didn't want to talk with us and get involved in the activities. Then we were very worried that we will not be able to help her change. We start praying for her and after few individual meetings she changed completely her attitude towards us and the other girls from the center.
Now for Dasha we are people whom she can trust and even call late at night for help or advices. We are grateful to God that He changed her and changed her relationships with others around.